My Mother is Fucking Crazy

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bunnika:

I seriously just had to teach my mother some basics of parenting.

Both photos are of my daughter in October, the first in 2011, the second in 2012.  I let her pick out her own clothes, shoes, haircuts, hair colors, anything superficial, really.  She’s too young to understand the permanence of piercings, so she doesn’t have any.  But hair grows, shoes get grown out of, clothes go threadbare.  These things don’t really matter—shouldn’t really matter—but anyone raising a gender-variant child knows the world isn’t that kind.

My daughter recently requested a haircut like mine.  A long flop on top, pixie-length fade on the back and sides.  She’s been bugging me for weeks to color her hair again, I just haven’t had the time.  But today she came to me with the same shyness she keeps developing when outside our home; she’s being pressured by peers and family to look “normal,” to grow her hair long and uncolored, to dress a certain way (she hates to match), to indulge in self-consciousness, and alter or not alter her appearance to gain the approval of others, and society at large.

THIS FUCKING INFURIATES ME.

I called my mother tonight, because my daughter had become shy again, and didn’t want to color her hair anymore, and she said it was because of what her Nana had said to her.  My mother told me we should get that spray-on Halloween hair colors, so it wouldn’t be so “permanent” and my daughter could be “normal” again to avoid being bullied.

IT IS NOT THE JOB OF THE VICTIM TO STOP BEING BULLIED.  IT IS THE BULLY’S JOB TO STOP BULLYING.

I know she gets teased sometimes, and we always talk about it.  She stays strong and confident, so long as she has the support of those around her.  But what that support falters, or pulls a 180, she’s left to crash.

She also gets teased for liking dinosaurs and not dolls.  She gets teased for preferring roughhousing to playing house.  She gets teased for liking Lightning McQueen and not Cinderella.  Where do we draw the line?

My mother thinks this is a “minor” thing, that it’s better to just blend in.  But it would plant the seed of doubt, it forms the foundation for queer kids staying in the closet, for disabled kids to feel worthless, for young girls accepting abusive partners.  This is not “minor,” it is fucking MAJOR, because this is my daughter’s foundation, and it will shape her life.

Support your fucking kids.  Let them be who they want to be, look how they want to look, and play how they want to play.  And make sure they know that you will love them no matter what.

Will always beblog this.

FUCK YES TO THIS<3

cutest kid i’ve ever seen. bless. <3

WELL SAID.

IT IS NOT THE JOB OF THE VICTIM TO STOP BEING BULLIED.  IT IS THE BULLY’S JOB TO STOP BULLYING.

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crystalbending:

My sweet little Chuckie,
Though I must leave you behind me, this poem will tell you where you always can find me. When a gentle wind blows, that’s my hand on your face. And when the tree gives you shade, that’s my sheltering embrace. When the sun gives you freckles, that’s me tickling my boy. When the rain wets your hair, those are my tears of joy. When the long grass enfolds you, that’s me holding you tight. When the Whippoorwill sings, that’s me whispering, “Night,night”.

Happy Mother’s Day…

crystalbending:

My sweet little Chuckie,

Though I must leave you behind me, this poem will tell you where you always can find me. 

When a gentle wind blows, that’s my hand on your face. 

And when the tree gives you shade, that’s my sheltering embrace. 

When the sun gives you freckles, that’s me tickling my boy. 

When the rain wets your hair, those are my tears of joy. 

When the long grass enfolds you, that’s me holding you tight. 

When the Whippoorwill sings, that’s me whispering, “Night,night”.

Happy Mother’s Day…

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Funniest shit you will ever see.

Omfg I still don’t understand this video.

Which Tyler Perry play is this?

😂😂😭😭😭😭😒😒😒

bruuh

😦

i’m hyperventilating

real fuckin tears right now

Wait what 

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Reblog if you support transsexuals

cautiously-ironic:

My parents are convinced that everyone is against transgendered individuals and are therefore using that to justify their stopping me from going ahead with my hormone treatment. everyone that reblogs this will go in a book for my parents. Please Help!

I wholeheartedly support this

but ignorant people are rarely persuaded even when they are proven wrong

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